ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING

by Francie Baltazar-Schwartz

Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"

He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"

Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.' I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life."

"Yeah, right, it's not that easy", I protested.

"Yes it is," Jerry said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live life."

I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning, and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center.

After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body. I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Wanna see my scars?"

I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. "The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door", Jerry replied. "Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live.

"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?", I asked.

Jerry continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, 'He's a dead man'. I knew I needed to take action."

"What did you do?", I asked.

"Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me", said Jerry. She asked if I was allergic to anything. "Yes", I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply... I took a deep breath and yelled, "Bullets!" Over their laughter, I told them, "I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."

Jerry lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.

This story was send to me by a friend in my e-mail. Today sharing with my blog readers and friends so that you all keep positive and smiling attitude towards life and live it full.

Be Happy. God Bless.

Take Responsibility of Your Own Self

Take responsibility for your own happiness, do not expect people or things to bring you happiness, or you could be disappointed. – Rodolfo Costa.
Many of you had gone through this quote but do you know what is this all about taking responsibility of your own self. May be like me many of you are in the foggy misty confusion that the words are powerful but how to live this words.  We all are taught in schools  how to read, write so that we fit well in the material world. Our parents teach us  how to behave in a proper manner  and become a person whom society  will look up with respect and honor , on the whole we are taught how to be responsible to do something  but in this whole process  none teaches  us that it is also a responsibility to be someone… like  to be happy, to be lovefull , to be peaceful ….this is self responsibility.
Every other person was sending the messages that we will be granted as a responsible person when we do a task or a job well and bring desired  expected result.  For example parents think we are responsible when we bring good grade in exams, boss will think that we are responsible if we meet the deadline  in time , spouse think we are responsible when every need of their is fulfilled unquestioned and the list of responsibility goes on and we rub our self hard to meet every need with a smile so that we don’t loose the tag of responsible from our character criteria list.
In this whole journey we all miss the self. Responsibility became a prominent word which cover our outer self and in this journey our own self energy get depleted, we became very responsible person  whom other love to look on but empty inside.
Who don’t love praise surely it boost our self esteem and we feel great  no doubt but  do this happiness last. It stays for a moment and then we are given another responsibility and we run after that so that  our parameter  stays on a right lane.  It is to look a situation from outside in. When you do a job people praise and you feel happy . Let’s try the other way round inside out. Take the responsibility to be happy inside , to be loving and to be peaceful inside and then do the job outside how fun it will be.
Till now the thought process is when I do something well people will praise and then I will feel happy.  So your happiness is literally on other’s hand. Now shift your thought take the responsibility of your own happiness. Be responsible for your own inner self. Connect with the positive happy energy of your won self and then do the work  given. As we all know work done with positive energy always yield more superior result . So now you are happy and doing the work and not doing it for happiness.  Praise or critics will not effect your state of happiness and you will remain in the state of positive vibes all the day through.
 We are all human being not human doing.  May be we are very responsible in our doing and meet all the material need in the outer world but if our  being is not nourished and nurtured well  and is not stable then  the  vibrational energy that we are emitting from our self  are not  that of happiness, love  and peace  , remember at the end neither you will be happy nor others  around.  May be you will be gifted with the garland of superficial words from outer world  but in times a void will be created and you will be unable to figure out that what went wrong that you being so responsible in all your doings still feeling empty and restless.
 Now it’s time to make your being , your inner self stable. Your emotional dimension is at the core ..suppose when you are happy everything around will seems happy, when you feel love you could handle the worst of the situation with ease.  It’s time to look inward  and connect with your core values that is  love , happiness and peace. Self  responsibility means that my response is my ability to response.  I am the self creator  responsible for all my decisions, thoughts , belief , perception and action. Outward situations will come you can’t control that but what  we can control is our inner thoughts and how to respond in that situation. Inner stability is our choice. From now on when you make your responsibility list  put self  on the top. Once your connection with your inner self is stable all other responsibility will automatically fall in places.
 A little exercise affirm “ I am the creator of my every though, belief, perception, attitude and action.”  Accept it and consciously note how many time you are reacting to a situation and blaming others even you know you can’t change the situation .Suppose you are stuck in a huge traffic jam on your important meeting.  You start complaining  though you know you can’t change the situation then why to grudge and grumble instead relax, be happy  and enjoy the me time with a happy music or any creative thought  or send good vibes to others , it don’t need a penny but it all need a shift of your attitude towards the situation. Stay connected with your core values that is happiness, love and peace and consciously take care that situation don't over power and snatch all your inner gift . It will not happen in one day but start practicing and consciously keep eye on to your inner world  you will definitely be successful. Keep trying, keep focusing and moving with a positive feeling inside out.
Hope from now on you will not look for happiness , love or peace. Your inner self will be filled with  all your inner gift and and you will  be a generous giver of happiness,  peace and love which when flow back to you again will drenched you  and your  life will be a memorable journey  to live on.

This above write up is inspired from BK Sister Shivani’s teaching on self management. Thanks a ton for Sister  for making life peacefully beautiful.

© Sutapa Ghosh

Be Happy. God Bless.

Words of wisdom: I've learned that ......

I am updating this blog after a long break but in this long break I collected some valuable wisdom for myself and for you all. Today let me share those pearls with you.

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.
I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back
I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
I've learned that it's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.
I've learned that you can get by on charm for about 15 minutes. After that, you'd better know something.
I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do, but to the best you can do.
I've learned that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it.
I've learned that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.
I've learned that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
I've learned that it's a lot easier to react than it is to think.
I've learned that you can keep going long after you think you can't.
I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I've learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I've learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
I've learned that learning to forgive takes practice.
I've learned that there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it.
I've learned that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I've learned that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I've learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
I've learned that I'm getting more and more like my grandma, and I'm kinda happy about it.
I've learned that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
I've learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
I've learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
I've learned that you should never tell a child her dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if she believed it
It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.
I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I've learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I've learned that sometimes when my friends fight, I'm forced to choose sides even when I don't want to.
I've learned that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
I've learned that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.
I've learned that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I've learned that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I've learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I've learned that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.
I've learned that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves, get farther in life.
I've learned that many things can be powered by the mind, the trick is self-control.
I've learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.
I've learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
I've learned that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.
I've learned that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us.
I've learned that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I've learned that although the word "love" can have many different meaning, it loses value when overly used.
I've learned that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe.

Be Happy .God Bless.
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The promise of our dreams comes true
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The Simple Things

The Simple Things - Edgar A. Guest

 I would not be too wise-so very wise
That I must sneer at simple songs and creeds,
And let the glare of wisdom blind my eyes
To humble people and their humble needs.
I would not care to climb so high that I
Could never hear the children at their play,
Could only see the people passing by,
And never hear the cheering words they say.
I would not know too much-too much to smile
At trivial errors of the heart and hand,
Nor be too proud to play the friend the while
Nor cease to help and know and understand.
I would not care to sit upon a throne,
Or build my house upon a mountain-top,
Where I must dwell in glory all alone
And never friend come in or poor man stop.
God grant that I may live upon this earth
And face the tasks which every morning brings
And never lose the glory and the worth
Of humble service and the simple things.

Be Happy. God Bless.
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This world belong to those who have faith in Almighty and belief in themselves. This two strong pillars can shake every challenges of your life and built the path of success . Faith makes everything possible. You block your dreams when you let your fear overpower your faith. So have faith and believe the power and ability your are blessed with. Few lines below will help you build that faith in yourself. Have a look-

Always Believe- Author Unknown
You have the ability
to attain whatever you seek;
within you is every potential
you can imagine.
Always aim higher than
you believe you can reach.
So often, you'll discover
that when your talents
are set free
by your imagination,
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If people offer their
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accept it gratefully.
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to step off the accepted path
and head off in your own direction
if your heart tells you
that it's the right way for you.
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What's a Mother Worth?

This is a very delicate poem which I want to share with you all.





What's a Mother Worth? -Author Unknown

 I humbly appraise my mother's worth,
It began with pain to give me birth,
Which triggered off a love so strong,
Blossoming into a life-long bond.

When needed, she was always there,
Someone I realised would always care.
And the older I got the more I knew,
A mother's love sincere and true.

Now as I watch Mum age in years,
I'm happy to help and ease her fears.
Privileged now to play my part,
As she did for me from the very start.

Be Happy.God Bless.
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Dare To

Dare To - Meiji Stewart

Dare to...

Ask For What You Want.
Believe in Yourself.
Change Your Mind.
Do What You Love.
Enjoy Each And Every Day.
Follow Your Heart's Desire.
Give More Than You Receive.
Have a Sense of Humor.
Insist On Being Yourself.
Join In More.
Kiss and Make up.
Love and Be Loved.
Make New Friends.
Nurture Your Spirit.
Overcome Adversity.
Play More.
Question Conformity.
Reach for the Stars.
Speak Your Truth.
Take Personal Responsibility.
Understand More, Judge Less.
Volunteer Your Time.
Walk Through Fear.
X-perience The Moment.
Yearn for Grace.
be Zany.

BE HAPPY.GOD BLESS.
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Two Things Stand Like Stone

Life is mostly froth and bubble,
Two things stand like stone,
Kindness in another's trouble,
Courage in your own.
~Adam Lindsay Gordon


A good character is the best tombstone. Those who loved you and were helped by you will remember you when forget-me-nots have withered. Carve your name on hearts, not on marble. ~Charles H. Spurgeon

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Touch Your Dreams

“You are everything that is, your thoughts, your life, your dreams come true. You are everything you choose to be. You are as unlimited as the endless universe.”
~Shad Helmstetter
“All our dreams can come true-if we have the courage to pursue them.”~ Walt Disney

“If you want to make your dreams come true, the first thing you have to do is wake up.”
~J. M. Power quotes
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I Resign

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I am hereby officially tendering my resignation as an adult.
I have decided I would like to accept the responsibilities of an 8-year-old again.
I want to go to McDonald's and think that it's a four star restaurant.
I want to sail sticks across a fresh mud puddle and make ripples with rocks.
I want to think M&Ms are better than money because you can eat them.
I want to lie under a big oak tree and run a lemonade stand with my friends on a hot summer day.
I want to return to a time when life was simple.
When all you knew were colors, multiplication tables, and nursery rhymes, but that didn't bother you, because you didn't know what you didn't know and you didn't care.
All you knew was to be happy because you were blissfully unaware of all the things that should make you worried or upset.
I want to think the world is fair. That everyone is honest and good.
I want to believe that anything is possible.
I want to be oblivious to the complexities of life and be overly excited
by the little things again.
I want to live simple again.
I don't want my day to consist of computer crashes, mountains of paperwork, depressing news, how to survive more days in the month than there is money in the bank, doctor bills, gossip,illness, and loss of loved ones.
I want to believe in the power of smiles, hugs, a kind word, truth, justice, peace, dreams, the imagination, mankind, and making angels in the snow.
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I am officially resigning from adulthood. And if you want to discuss this further, you'll have to catch me first, 'cause,
"Tag! You're it."
I know it is not possible to physically resign from all the responsibility but for some moment you can . This wonderful video will help you to do so. Have a look and cherish this music.


BE HAPPY . GOD BLESS.

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Get around the right people.Associate with positive,goal-oriented people who encourage and inspire you. -Brian Tracy

You already have every characteristic necessary for success if you recognize, claim, develop and use them . -Zig Ziglar

If you'll not settle for anything less than your best, you'll be amazed at what you can accomplish in your lives.-Vince Lombardi

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Be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the Universe no less than the trees and the stars. In the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.



Honor the past.
Live in the present.
Create the future.


BE HAPPY. GOD BLESS.

Time To Think

Many a times we avoid works telling that some body will do it and at end we find that no one have finished that simple work which can be done by anyone.So next time you just delay a job give this lines a thought-

That's Not My Job - Author Unknown

This is a story told about four people named, Somebody, Everybody, Anybody and Nobody.

There was one important job to be done.

Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it, but Nobody did it. Somebody got angry about it because it was Everybody's job. Everybody thought Anybody could do it. Nobody realized that Everybody wouldn't do it.

It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody did what Anybody could have done.


BE HAPPY AND GOD BLESS.

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Every time new opportunities knock our door; many among us hesitate to take decision. We think thousand times about the pros and cons of the deal. Then some of us take the risk and some miss a golden chance of destiny. We lose many golden chances just because we fear to take risk. Some point or other we all have to be little bold and take risk to march ahead. Few quotes below will help you to decide to take risk when most needed.

Many great ideas have been lost because the people who had them could not stand being laughed at. ~Author Unknown

“The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn and feel and change and grow and love and live.”
Leo F. Buscaglia

“You have to risk going too far to discover just how far you can really go.”
Originally from T.S. Eliot
Jim Rohn

“Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.”
Andre Gide

Be Happy God Bless.

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Daily Survival Kit

This survival kit is very useful for your daily use, don’t forget to have this kit if you want your daily journey to be stress free and also gift this kit to your friends and family because sometimes the smallest thing can help people deal with stress - these kits are small but their meaning can be worth more than the most expensive gift!
Daily Survival Kit
By Author Unknown
Items to put in kit:
Toothpick, Rubber band, Band aid, Pencil, Eraser, Chewing gum, Mint, Candy kiss, Tea bag
Why?

1. Toothpick -
to remind you to pick out the good qualities in others
2. Rubber band -
to remind you to be flexible: things might not always work out the way you want, but it will work out.
3. Band aid -
to remind you to heal hurt feelings,
yours and someone else's
4. Pencil -
to remind you to list your blessings everyday
5. Eraser -
to remind you that everyone makes mistakes,
and it's OK 6. Chewing gum -
to remind you to stick with it and
you can accomplish anything
7. Mint -
to remind you that you are worth a mint!
8. Candy kiss -
to remind you that everyone needs a
kiss or a hug every day
9. Tea bag -
to remind you to relax daily and
go over your list of blessings

BE HAPPY .GOD BLESS.

Let Your Light Shine

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
-- Marianne Williamson

BE HAPPY.GOD BLESS.

Always Remember

Weekends are times when many of us open our memory box , but have you notice that what pop up first - past hurts , wounds & heart break. All this are burden to our soul. This weekends make some time to clean your memory box and just store those little bubbles of happiness and let go the unwanted.

Always Remember - Author Unknown
Always remember to forget
The things that made you sad
But never forget to remember
The things that made you glad.

Always remember to forget
The friends that proved untrue.
But don't forget to remember
Those that have stuck by you.

Always remember to forget
The troubles that have passed away.
But never forget to remember
The blessings that come each day.

BE HAPPY. GOD BLESS.