Take Responsibility of Your Own Self

Take responsibility for your own happiness, do not expect people or things to bring you happiness, or you could be disappointed. – Rodolfo Costa.
Many of you had gone through this quote but do you know what is this all about taking responsibility of your own self. May be like me many of you are in the foggy misty confusion that the words are powerful but how to live this words.  We all are taught in schools  how to read, write so that we fit well in the material world. Our parents teach us  how to behave in a proper manner  and become a person whom society  will look up with respect and honor , on the whole we are taught how to be responsible to do something  but in this whole process  none teaches  us that it is also a responsibility to be someone… like  to be happy, to be lovefull , to be peaceful ….this is self responsibility.
Every other person was sending the messages that we will be granted as a responsible person when we do a task or a job well and bring desired  expected result.  For example parents think we are responsible when we bring good grade in exams, boss will think that we are responsible if we meet the deadline  in time , spouse think we are responsible when every need of their is fulfilled unquestioned and the list of responsibility goes on and we rub our self hard to meet every need with a smile so that we don’t loose the tag of responsible from our character criteria list.
In this whole journey we all miss the self. Responsibility became a prominent word which cover our outer self and in this journey our own self energy get depleted, we became very responsible person  whom other love to look on but empty inside.
Who don’t love praise surely it boost our self esteem and we feel great  no doubt but  do this happiness last. It stays for a moment and then we are given another responsibility and we run after that so that  our parameter  stays on a right lane.  It is to look a situation from outside in. When you do a job people praise and you feel happy . Let’s try the other way round inside out. Take the responsibility to be happy inside , to be loving and to be peaceful inside and then do the job outside how fun it will be.
Till now the thought process is when I do something well people will praise and then I will feel happy.  So your happiness is literally on other’s hand. Now shift your thought take the responsibility of your own happiness. Be responsible for your own inner self. Connect with the positive happy energy of your won self and then do the work  given. As we all know work done with positive energy always yield more superior result . So now you are happy and doing the work and not doing it for happiness.  Praise or critics will not effect your state of happiness and you will remain in the state of positive vibes all the day through.
 We are all human being not human doing.  May be we are very responsible in our doing and meet all the material need in the outer world but if our  being is not nourished and nurtured well  and is not stable then  the  vibrational energy that we are emitting from our self  are not  that of happiness, love  and peace  , remember at the end neither you will be happy nor others  around.  May be you will be gifted with the garland of superficial words from outer world  but in times a void will be created and you will be unable to figure out that what went wrong that you being so responsible in all your doings still feeling empty and restless.
 Now it’s time to make your being , your inner self stable. Your emotional dimension is at the core ..suppose when you are happy everything around will seems happy, when you feel love you could handle the worst of the situation with ease.  It’s time to look inward  and connect with your core values that is  love , happiness and peace. Self  responsibility means that my response is my ability to response.  I am the self creator  responsible for all my decisions, thoughts , belief , perception and action. Outward situations will come you can’t control that but what  we can control is our inner thoughts and how to respond in that situation. Inner stability is our choice. From now on when you make your responsibility list  put self  on the top. Once your connection with your inner self is stable all other responsibility will automatically fall in places.
 A little exercise affirm “ I am the creator of my every though, belief, perception, attitude and action.”  Accept it and consciously note how many time you are reacting to a situation and blaming others even you know you can’t change the situation .Suppose you are stuck in a huge traffic jam on your important meeting.  You start complaining  though you know you can’t change the situation then why to grudge and grumble instead relax, be happy  and enjoy the me time with a happy music or any creative thought  or send good vibes to others , it don’t need a penny but it all need a shift of your attitude towards the situation. Stay connected with your core values that is happiness, love and peace and consciously take care that situation don't over power and snatch all your inner gift . It will not happen in one day but start practicing and consciously keep eye on to your inner world  you will definitely be successful. Keep trying, keep focusing and moving with a positive feeling inside out.
Hope from now on you will not look for happiness , love or peace. Your inner self will be filled with  all your inner gift and and you will  be a generous giver of happiness,  peace and love which when flow back to you again will drenched you  and your  life will be a memorable journey  to live on.

This above write up is inspired from BK Sister Shivani’s teaching on self management. Thanks a ton for Sister  for making life peacefully beautiful.

© Sutapa Ghosh

Be Happy. God Bless.

Return To Happiness// Be You Part 4

When ever you find that in context of any incident you are belittling yourself, stop the think flow immediately. Befriend with your thoughts. Remind your mind that to belittle yourself meaning opening a road to self decay.

The main reason of your birth is to feel the higher almighty self. You and your self is related to every particles of this world. But as because you have feed your negative self for years with strong negative affirmation so in the beginning your mind will try to take the dark lanes. You have keep your eye on,  always stay alert so that you can catch your mind right away when it leave the sunshine path and taking the by lanes of negativity. You have to understand that if you take this by lanes, which is easy to travel in beginning will take you nowhere and you will soon be surrounded by depression. It is something that if you are talking to a friend while driving and take wrong lanes then you faces so much problem and pain to find out and reach the right lane. So you have to stay alert so that your life car too takes the right road to reach the destination of happiness. In midst of this positivism workout if you face any obstacles or any painful situation immediately tie your mind tightly that whatever may be the outer situation you will only think positive.

Keep on reminding yourself how you are always blessed by the Almighty, how He helped you like a true friend every time and saved you. Go on remembering His immense blessings and you can chant His name too. This will make you realize that you are sitting on His lap and He is always there to bring you out victorious. The power of God is mightier that any and every problem of this world. Believe in that power of Almighty which is hidden in your own self. If you have courage to look deep inside you can see that light.

Feed your courageous self with the mighty power of Almighty and wait to see miracle happens. Every minute in this world thousands of people are succeeding, millions are blessed with abundance, millions are getting the love of their life, millions are getting healed….then why not you. Yes you are also God beloved child. As like all parents want their child to shine so do God. All nights have it ends into a bright beautiful day that’s the law of nature. No one in the world can spin it differently and it will happen in the right time. So also sorrow and pain can’t be everlasting. It may seems long years are lost. Those who give pain to others they get back immense pain in return that’s the Universal law. So don’t let any dark thought prevail. Let you be the one who give love, forgiveness, prayer and positive rays to other. You are child of happiness and this is the path from unhappiness to happiness. Live life to its fullest you will be blessed with more than you deserve.

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Question YourSelf // Be You Part 3

Whenever you get yourself stuck in a negative situation or a painful event either once or repeatedly then don’t waste your time blaming others, or who is right or wrong or why you are the only one to be punished in the whole Universe while many bad people roaming around, why such severe punishment for you, don’t let your mind get trapped in such negative feelings. That’s the easiest part of the doing but the end result is bitterly poisonous.

Just free yourself from the negative think flow and then introspect deeply that why such thing is going on in your life one after another. What is the inner mystery behind ?..what God wants from you ?..what He wants you to understand ?..what important life lesson He want you to teach? My be you will not get the answer as soon as you ask but don’t take other teaching as yours ….all this answer will come from within yourself.

Wait for your inner truth to reveal. Pray to God and He will make you understand in correct time. This will became your path towards higher enlightenment. You will soon be free from negativity and get into the positive realm of life.

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Let Go Of Past // Be You Part 2

Sit quietly in a place and then take a dairy try to remember all events from your childhood and note it down in that dairy. Look clearly on those events take a deep note which event lift your soul up and which has put you down. How you have overcome those dark hours and enlightened yourself. How you have reached the world of faith and hope and leave that world of darkness? How the saddest moment of your life give you an opportunity to get in touch with your higher self and it became a pathway to your spiritual life.
It’s time to introspect …. is still there are moments remain in your memory bank that push you in to sorrow. Is their any moment still remain burden of your soul. Just see that what all this sorrows had given you ? The baggage of past given you nothing except bucketful of tears …then why are you hesitating to let go this baggage of past hurt ?
Do you want to free yourself from this past hurt and sorrow ….are this sorrows unbearable for you ..then let go them.. ..once gone don’t look back to them again ..they only destroy your inner strength.
Live in the present .Your future is in your own hands. Inside you is the untapped potential. You have unlimited value. Your dreams can definitely come true because you are unique and special. You can put whatever you put your mind to. So choose to enlarge your vision. Retrain your mind. Increase confidence. Attract what is good in your path. Everyday step forward , decide what you want and prepare for your success. Believe in your self. Avoid negative . Let go of the past . Never give up .Be you…..Today is the day...first day for your successful life...go sparkle in the brilliance of your achievements.
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I Love Me// Be You Part - 1

It is been long that I am out from this blog. But I have returned with some hidden treasure. This is my new series Be You. In this series I will share some positive very simple practices that will make your life sparkle in brilliance of success and happiness. I am posting 1st part today. Each day spend sometime in front of the mirror. Look yourself closely. A child once asked to his mother “ Mom we can see everyone but why not ourselves.”
 This is the time to look to yourself from the most closest distance. Look deeply inside your eyes. Now tell to your self that you are God’s blessed child. You are the most beautiful in and out. The light that radiate from your eyes are actually the ray of the almighty God that is pouring out from your eyes. Tell to your self that you are the God most loved child. God love you the most. This love and shine you spread among all. Think that every person of this world loves you. To make your positive mind strong tell to yourself that you are a blessing to your family. Feel the blissful love of the almighty within you. With a blink less eye look at yourself and love.
 Try to feel the blessing of God in every cell of your body.Accept with gratitude the shower of bliss that you are getting every moment from your Higher self. If you practice this few minutes every day then you will learn to love yourself. Your attitude about yourself will change and will be more positive. If you can’t love yourself who else in the world will take time to love you ? The tragedy of this world is that many people suffer from very low self esteem and this slowly finish them off.
 But if you do this mirror practice with all the positive affirmation to your self , you will became the most beautiful , most loving person and you will see miracle of life each and every day.Each day will be a like a blessing for yourself and for others.
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